D went to his house meeting tonight,....the house where he had been living before he was kicked out on Thurs. night. After discussion and new requirements (more stringent than before) he was allowed to move back in. He (and we) were relieved...so it begins again. He did sleep at his sponsor's house last night, so he wasn't still in his car. The sponsor wouldn't let him do so on Fri. or Sat. night, but did so last night, which was a relief for D. I think he's really become appreciative of A/C,...no wonder.
Yesterday, he called and was hanging out in a hospital parking garage.....felt it was a safer place to hang out in his car, vs. other parking lots, and was also cooler in temperature. I said,..."well, that's true,...that makes sense." His reply was, "Well Mom, I'm not stupid." No, D was never stupid,...not at all. He was the one as a freshman in h.s. with a 3.7 GPA,....UNTIL he got involved with drugs. I guess it's been so long since I've seen him doing anything sensible,...that it's hard to remember that.
And, so ....he is given yet another chance to be clean and build a good life. Time will tell......
My own opinion: He did what he was supposed to do to get back in to the Sober Living. He dealt with the consequences without your help. That in itself is a huge accomplishment. Congratulations to him and to you for not supplying him with money to get through these last few days.
ReplyDeleteGood news - I hope he keeps fighting. Wishing you all the best!
ReplyDeleteGreat news and I'm so glad you made it through the weekend. Sometimes when my heart is screaming at me to "help" my son with shelter etc, I have to keep telling myself that I will not "help" him kill himself with his addiction.
ReplyDeleteIf the house and his sponsor are giving him another chance, they must feel there is a spark there for recovery. I would take heart from this turn of events.
ReplyDeletethanks all,....time will tell....sigh
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry its taken me so long to catch up here. Just read the last several posts so I'd be "in the loop". This is such a good example of how hard it is to love an addict. I'm glad he was able to take action on his own and is getting another chance. One of these times it will stick and he will be fine....I keep telling myself that for all of our children.
ReplyDeleteSounds like he's making steps in a good direction and making good choices on his own. Hopefully that will give him confidence to handle things on his own successfully.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you...