Sunday, September 25, 2011

back....finally.....and needing info. if possible

Hi all,....I've missed you,  although I've been reading your blogs and commenting, I haven't got myself to blog on my own.  First of all,...THANK YOU for your kind words and support on the loss of my mother. It's meant a lot to me.  I'm still amazed daily that it all happened and she's gone.  It was very quick and it seems like a blur.....and somehow, it still is surprising to me, while also sad and feels like it hasn't all settled in completely yet.
     There's a lot to tell about, and I still won't get into it all yet, for I'm currently busy here doing prep. for school/work tomorrow.  Suffice it to say that D is still CLEAN (yaaay) and has actually moved out of the sober living home he's been in since June.  He's been in one or another of them since last January, so it was almost time, ....but he did move out a bit early, since he'd originally planned to do so in November.  More on all of that later,...but he's doing very well,...working, now living in a house right across the street from the sober living home he's been living in, along with 2 other people in recovery.  He's also planning to begin at the nearby junior college in January,...prob. only 2 courses for the first semester, and still will be working where he is now.
      The info. that I'm asking for is if any of you would share a rehab. place that you would highly recommend.  If it's on or near the east coast, that would probably be best....but I don't believe it has to be.  This info. is for D's best friend, who is living right outside of Wash., D.C. currently,...used to live here in VA. where we do, but his dad got a different job and they moved earlier this year.   D's friend, J, has been to one rehab. before, Caron, in PA.,...which is supposed to be a high quality place, but I don't know if the funds are there to go back to Caron again.  I'm hoping that with his dad's new job, his insurance will at least cover part of it....but what are the odds of that ?  Plus....all of these places are just so very expensive.  I figured I had a connection here on  my blog to a world of info. regarding places that you think are good places, as well as those to avoid.    Our own son has been to 4 of these places, and only 1 would I say is not a place I'd recommend, and 1 isn't around anymore, which was the first place,....a wilderness journey place he went to at 16, for 3 1/2 mo.s..    J is 20  yr.s old, a bright guy,...with long standing anxiety problems, as well as some depression...that is motivated and wants to go.  He's also gay and just came out about that about 6 mo.s ago.
     Anyway,...if you have any suggestions...please let me know and I'll pass them on. Meanwhile...I'll be back very soon to catch up on what's happening with us.  Meanwhile, I continue to pray for you and your addicts.  God bless you all.

Monday, September 5, 2011

my mom

We lost my beloved mom last Wed. night.  I did make it to her bedside in time....7 1/2 hr.s before she passed away, and along with my family members....we supported her journey....kissed her, told her how loved she was/is,...leaned on each other, cried and prayed together.  As terrible as it was,...and also so was one of the most moving and LOVING experiences of my life.  However...I /we already miss her so much.  I've already started to go to call her twice since we've been back home this afternoon.  Still not fathoming life without my mom....