Friday, January 14, 2011

Oh Happy Day

It's sooo nice to post something good on here. First of all, D continues to sound better and better every day. He's clear spoken...which of course he should be by now,..but still...very appreciated ! He is (from what I can tell over the phone) productive, motivated, hopeful, pleasant to talk to, reasonable, etc. etc. etc. It's again, quite amazing to hear....even if I'm not seeing it with my own eyes. He "thinks" he may have a job at Mc Donald's, going to see the hiring manager that's one hopeful option. Even just Mc Donald's ...a job is a job is a job....and mind you, he does have experience,...used to work at our local one here. The more he has to do during the day...or evening,..the better it is. He needs to occupy his time. His attitude remains positive, despite the fact that he's quite disappointed at the fact that a number of(majority of) the residents of his halfway house seem to be using. : ( No one has told him that overtly, nor shown him what they have,....but he's seen all the signs with most of them,...besides what happened the other night, and ya know, it takes one to know one. As they can't bullshit a bullshitter, true. He wants to get out of there, and is in the process of talking to one of the directors of one of the other local halfway house in the city he's in. If he stays another week where he is, they will refund the last 2 weeks of the first month's payment.

The really big "happy day" thing is that our daughter (never much mention her in this blog about addiction) got engaged today ! She's currently living in Australia,...back story there,...and her Aussie boyfriend called us this morning at 6 A.M. before we went to work, let us know that he was going to propose....kind of get our blessing ahead of time....very sweet. That phone ringing at 6 a.m. with him on the line (it was Fri.night there already/15 hr.s time difference) couldn't have been more surprising. We are very happy for them....he's a wonderful, hardworking, guy of integrity that adores our daughter. Other than their location on the globe and our wish to see them more.....who doesn't like that for their daughter ?
Meanwhile, D has gone on a phone call campaign through the extended family.....has been "reconnecting" with the relatives,...both sides of grandparents, uncles, one aunt, his brother and sister etc.,...he says it "feels good to be back in the family". That really surprised me....and I wonder if he really "gets" that whether or not he hears it or sees it, the family members may be hesitant and skeptical, as much as he is currently doing well legitimately. It will take TIME to not be concerned about how much better he'll "keep on" doing.
oh yeah....our older son, D's older brother even got "employee of the month" at his office, as I said....a happy day. : ) One day at a day at a day at a time....


  1. I am THRILLED for you! Congratulations all around. I live for happy posts like this. WOOHOO!

  2. Wonderful post; and I'm happy for you that your world is feeling a positive balance. One day at a time is all we can hope for.

  3. Happy news!!! I love hearing good things and sounds like your family has lots to celebrate. Maybe 2011 will be the year of no more drugs for our boys!!! I am counting on it.

  4. My son too, had a poor environment at a half way house. Thankfully my son was able to move out and get an apartment...The drug use was rampant at the half-way house. I went several times with my younger son to was down right scary... Glad your son is doing better. Mine is too. 2 1/2 years in recovery. He is 22 years old. It has been a long, difficult I am sure you can relate to. Praise God for your son's progress! :)

  5. thank you for your comments and encouragement...much appreciated :)

  6. Congratulations for your Daughter! As far as your son, good for him for wanting to get out of a bad place. It is so sad that so many of us want our children to go to these places just to find out most of them sell drugs right there and use. Sounds like he wants to be clean.
    That of course is a great sign!