Sunday, November 3, 2013
Monday, May 27, 2013
it's been a loooong time since I said hello !
I never did show you all these - D came through last September,...it was truly miraculous,...and it was the prompt that began his recovery from crack. I'll never get over it, but it sure was answer to our constant prayers ! I known I really need to update this blog - and will hopefully do so soon. Just felt like it would be a good idea today to post something positive,...for truly, would never have believed this could happen as it has unfolded, unless I'd seen it all with my own eyes. D has a ways to go - but is 8 MONTHS clean from crack - which was like the devil himself and would have killed him if he'd continued - or at the very least, put him into prison. I am THANKFUL THANKFUL THANKFUL & really attribute it to the blessings of God upon him. He's still developing into the person he was born to be,..but is getting better every day - in many ways.
As far as these pictures go - I accidentally posted one of them twice and can't seem to delete one of them. And yes - those guys with their pants down are our Aussie guests - apparently this is a tradition when a certain song comes on. We had no idea !! Really took us by surprise. They were definitely a fun bunch, and we enjoyed getting to know them and spend time with them. 38 Australians came over for the wedding - which amazes me to this day. : )
Thinking of all of you and yours today - keeping on praying for the recovery of all of our much beloved addicts. Miracles do happen !
As far as these pictures go - I accidentally posted one of them twice and can't seem to delete one of them. And yes - those guys with their pants down are our Aussie guests - apparently this is a tradition when a certain song comes on. We had no idea !! Really took us by surprise. They were definitely a fun bunch, and we enjoyed getting to know them and spend time with them. 38 Australians came over for the wedding - which amazes me to this day. : )
Thinking of all of you and yours today - keeping on praying for the recovery of all of our much beloved addicts. Miracles do happen !
Monday, January 21, 2013
Thursday, January 17, 2013
Another Question
First of all - thank you SO much for your replies. Especially thanks to Lou for her e-mail rehearsing her family's personal experience with Narconon. Narconon is out for my friend's son. And I forgot - this will be his 3rd rehab - not 2nd,..I forgot one of them. She's asking of anyone of you know of a place called St Jude's in New York State. Probably a lot of you have heard of it - who knew we'd all become so well versed in rehab places ? It's a non- 12 step program,...so that's obviously atypical - but the reason they're considering it. Her son, B, hasn't ever really bought into or connected with AA or NA - so they thought this may be better. I don't know - is that B's unwillingness to do "whatever it takes" ? I am not saying that the 12 steps are the only way to lasting recovery ,..not at all - just hoping B is sick & tired ENOUGH to do what's needed to really recover.
My friend, also B, ..is very special to me. We taught 4th grade together for 4 years - as team teaching partners. She taught all the language arts and I taught all the math & science to 2 classes that switched back & forth between our classrooms. When I came to this school I was paired with her to teach - and who knew that we'd hang on to each other for support and sanity through the worst times of our lives, both as mothers of addict sons. Out of all the other teachers I could have been paired with - I was teamed with this woman whose son's problems began to grow & then just spiraled into a horrible addiction to heroin. He's 2 years older than D,..and then - D was right behind him - like the same age pattern of drugs & trouble. In fact, although B's been in plenty of trouble, my D's been in more (arrested 6 times. : (. ) -given his former penchant for drug dealing & inability to keep his mouth shut around cops. Never will understand that one. But my friend, B, and I related to each other on so many levels - do not know how I'd have made it this far with any semblance of sanity without her - and all of you !! So what were the odds, as I said, of being paired with another teacher in the school whose son was an addict- right when I needed it most, ...and so did she. That - Ive always thought was a God thing - just am sure of it, and very grateful for it.
Hoping B will really turn this around - just as I do for all of our sons & daughters. Any info on St Jude's- am all ears & will pass it on. Thanks.
My friend, also B, ..is very special to me. We taught 4th grade together for 4 years - as team teaching partners. She taught all the language arts and I taught all the math & science to 2 classes that switched back & forth between our classrooms. When I came to this school I was paired with her to teach - and who knew that we'd hang on to each other for support and sanity through the worst times of our lives, both as mothers of addict sons. Out of all the other teachers I could have been paired with - I was teamed with this woman whose son's problems began to grow & then just spiraled into a horrible addiction to heroin. He's 2 years older than D,..and then - D was right behind him - like the same age pattern of drugs & trouble. In fact, although B's been in plenty of trouble, my D's been in more (arrested 6 times. : (. ) -given his former penchant for drug dealing & inability to keep his mouth shut around cops. Never will understand that one. But my friend, B, and I related to each other on so many levels - do not know how I'd have made it this far with any semblance of sanity without her - and all of you !! So what were the odds, as I said, of being paired with another teacher in the school whose son was an addict- right when I needed it most, ...and so did she. That - Ive always thought was a God thing - just am sure of it, and very grateful for it.
Hoping B will really turn this around - just as I do for all of our sons & daughters. Any info on St Jude's- am all ears & will pass it on. Thanks.
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
Need info
Hi all - haven't posted in forever - but still read about you & yours daily. At some point soon I'll do an update on how we're doing here. D's no longer in the horror show he was in back in Aug. & September, thank God ! He's not yet where he needs to be, but definitely progressing - and living back here in VA., nearby,...just moved into an apartment with a friend that we've known since they were 10 yr,s old. And amazingly- D's going to school again, at the local community college - taking 5 classes. Like I said- will catch you up on him later. All isn't wonderful - still plenty of concern for how he's doing, decisions he makes etc.
Meanwhile, a good friend of mine- my former teaching partner, has a son who's an addict- addicted to heroin. Was doing well for awhile (not really though) on suboxone- and is now a mess again. She called me after work today- saying they're going to send him to a rehab (his 2nd) - the other was quite awhile ago - at least a couple of years or more ago. She asked what I knew about Narconon - specifically their place in San Diego county - the Sunshine Summit Lodge. I took to you bloggers - the ones I trust way more than just reading Internet reviews. I did a quick search & it sounds like a nightmare - is run by Scientology. I don't know much at all about Scientology other than its association with Tom Cruise & John Travolta - which isn't informative, obviously. From the little I've read so far - wouldn't spend my $ at Sunshine Summit Lodge or let my son anywhere near there. But thought I'd ask all of you if you know of anyone personally who went through or knows of someone who did a Narconon program. Any info. would be appreciated.
I remain praying for your sons & daughters recovery.
Friday, September 28, 2012
He's here
Just thought I'd check in briefly. SO busy this week ! We're gearing up to the big day and it has been quite hectic, but in a very good way. We've had the grooms family here since Mon. Night,..nit staying here at our house,but very close by, & getting to know them & their other family members & friends. They're all so wonderful ! It's amazing to me,...at least 35 of them have come over here for the wedding, just think what that takes in time, effort, travel, & $$. Lots of $$ to be here. It's beautiful, to bond these 2 families & members of different countries, all of the love of our daughter& her fiancé. We've all been having such a wonderful time. I'll elaborate later once the wedding is over
So,.....onceI heard it from the house manager yesterday, that D tested clean (Yaay), ...we gave the green light for him to come & he arrived about noon today. We had a by gathering here at our home tonight, with many family members & friends, & so far, D came through. He was pleasant & social, & polite & interacted w/ everyone's, getting to know the groom's family etc. It would be easy for someone to be fooled into thinking it is impossible for this young man to have been smoking crack & almost homeless less than 2 weeks ago,...& very desperate.
Please let the rest of the weekend go the way today & tonight have been for D & for us...
So,.....onceI heard it from the house manager yesterday, that D tested clean (Yaay), ...we gave the green light for him to come & he arrived about noon today. We had a by gathering here at our home tonight, with many family members & friends, & so far, D came through. He was pleasant & social, & polite & interacted w/ everyone's, getting to know the groom's family etc. It would be easy for someone to be fooled into thinking it is impossible for this young man to have been smoking crack & almost homeless less than 2 weeks ago,...& very desperate.
Please let the rest of the weekend go the way today & tonight have been for D & for us...
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
Decision.
Oh boy,..it really would be too much to catch up all that's happened It's been a crazy train of a week,..let's just say that. I have papers to grade right now before going to bed, & not much time to write. The bottom line is that our daughter, D's big sister, is getting married in 10 days. Therefore, we need to decide, by tomorrow, do we let him come, & be a part of this huge family event, or not,...because we can't guarantee that all will go well ? He's supposed to be one of the ushers,...his tux is ready to be picked up next week.
He's now (thank God) back in his original sober living house, as a result of his own attempts to get help. This was after many days of staying alone in the house he'd been living in, with no $, & then the power shut off (since the bill wasn't paid) & he was hot (Fla. & no AC), & in the dark alone once the sun went down. This has been going on since the weekend when he couldnt go into detox & we wouldn't give him any $. I will admit, I did have a pizza delivered that I ordered online 2 times.
He's desperately begging to be there. His sister doesn't know the depths that he's recently gone to,..but does now know that he's "not been doing well recently", & is leaving it up to the judgement of S (my husband ) & me. She does not at all want anything negative to color any of the wedding weekend, ...understandably, or to be worrying about him if he takes off in the middle of the might or causes any worry or upset,...none of us do, of course. D says that the last thing he'd ever want I do is to "screw up" any part of this,...but is also so upset to think he'd possibly not be able to come,..for such a big family event,... as the only person of the family "not good enough to come",... his words, not mine. S has been very much against D coming, but late last night said that he'd go along with it, if that's what I wanted this much,..& was this important to me. Truly, I just know its because he can't stand to see my pain on this,...because it really has been ripping my heart out. What I haven't shared is that D recently stole $ from us during this last run/nightmare. It's so so awful,...he actually managed to get into our savings account & ripped off almost $3,000 !! It was there for stuff we were paying for, for the wedding,...& ironically, he himself called us & told us before it was discovered, & said to block him somehow, that we should call the police, & he was ready to go to prison if that's what would happen,..etc., & was crying & very remorseful,..as he obviously should be ! It's weird, because S is one who goes onto the online banking site every morning,..but wasnt checking any savings $, just checking balance, plus it was on the weekend when he's not looking at it as much. And believe me,.it could have been worse moneywise, NOT that I'm minimizing what D did ! Quite the contrary. S hasn't spoken to him since,...he's been SO pissed about it (no wonder)& only I have had contact with D. No one else has known but us two, until last night when S told M, D's older brother, our oldest son. M was quite enraged, & bummed out,...& thought that no way should D be allowed to come,...& M has always been in D's corner & done SO much for him. Although, M got to a point where he's basically protected his heart & is always skeptical on D's progress at staying clean (no surprise) while also praying/hoping for his success.
I'm so torn,...I VERYmuch want D with us,..but just as much want nothing at all to be a problem that would diminish our daughter & future son in law's big day/weekend. And not for nothing, I've been busting my butt full out for months & months to get everything done & prepare for this. We've got all kinds of people coming from Australia (groom's family & close friends) that we've never even met yet. Not staying here in our house, but close by & will be here with is us a lot during the days leading up to the wedding, on the 29th, a week fom Saturday
D says he'll do whatever we ask to be here,...including sleeping in our room like he did when he was 15 & his addiction problems began,...in my attempt to get some sleep & stop him from sneaking out @ night,...that he was really known for. Oh God,..we've been dealing with this for sooo long. I know you reading this understand.
Your thoughts ???
He's now (thank God) back in his original sober living house, as a result of his own attempts to get help. This was after many days of staying alone in the house he'd been living in, with no $, & then the power shut off (since the bill wasn't paid) & he was hot (Fla. & no AC), & in the dark alone once the sun went down. This has been going on since the weekend when he couldnt go into detox & we wouldn't give him any $. I will admit, I did have a pizza delivered that I ordered online 2 times.
He's desperately begging to be there. His sister doesn't know the depths that he's recently gone to,..but does now know that he's "not been doing well recently", & is leaving it up to the judgement of S (my husband ) & me. She does not at all want anything negative to color any of the wedding weekend, ...understandably, or to be worrying about him if he takes off in the middle of the might or causes any worry or upset,...none of us do, of course. D says that the last thing he'd ever want I do is to "screw up" any part of this,...but is also so upset to think he'd possibly not be able to come,..for such a big family event,... as the only person of the family "not good enough to come",... his words, not mine. S has been very much against D coming, but late last night said that he'd go along with it, if that's what I wanted this much,..& was this important to me. Truly, I just know its because he can't stand to see my pain on this,...because it really has been ripping my heart out. What I haven't shared is that D recently stole $ from us during this last run/nightmare. It's so so awful,...he actually managed to get into our savings account & ripped off almost $3,000 !! It was there for stuff we were paying for, for the wedding,...& ironically, he himself called us & told us before it was discovered, & said to block him somehow, that we should call the police, & he was ready to go to prison if that's what would happen,..etc., & was crying & very remorseful,..as he obviously should be ! It's weird, because S is one who goes onto the online banking site every morning,..but wasnt checking any savings $, just checking balance, plus it was on the weekend when he's not looking at it as much. And believe me,.it could have been worse moneywise, NOT that I'm minimizing what D did ! Quite the contrary. S hasn't spoken to him since,...he's been SO pissed about it (no wonder)& only I have had contact with D. No one else has known but us two, until last night when S told M, D's older brother, our oldest son. M was quite enraged, & bummed out,...& thought that no way should D be allowed to come,...& M has always been in D's corner & done SO much for him. Although, M got to a point where he's basically protected his heart & is always skeptical on D's progress at staying clean (no surprise) while also praying/hoping for his success.
I'm so torn,...I VERYmuch want D with us,..but just as much want nothing at all to be a problem that would diminish our daughter & future son in law's big day/weekend. And not for nothing, I've been busting my butt full out for months & months to get everything done & prepare for this. We've got all kinds of people coming from Australia (groom's family & close friends) that we've never even met yet. Not staying here in our house, but close by & will be here with is us a lot during the days leading up to the wedding, on the 29th, a week fom Saturday
D says he'll do whatever we ask to be here,...including sleeping in our room like he did when he was 15 & his addiction problems began,...in my attempt to get some sleep & stop him from sneaking out @ night,...that he was really known for. Oh God,..we've been dealing with this for sooo long. I know you reading this understand.
Your thoughts ???
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