tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4901597967659101042.post5893400456100118498..comments2023-09-16T09:43:24.244-04:00Comments on Dawn's Early Light: Stepping backward and forward......beachteacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14159524928730022945noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4901597967659101042.post-64437629493912040382010-12-29T20:02:14.799-05:002010-12-29T20:02:14.799-05:00Lori,...you're right...totally. He gets so wo...Lori,...you're right...totally. He gets so worked up and although I was calm while I spoke to him, I engaged him. :( I am thankful that he calmed down and realized how nuts it was, what he was saying,..without us convincing him etc.. And yes, I have done just what you and VJ are saying...calmly said what my/our limits and boundaries were and left it at that and disengaged. I agree, that's all that you can do. At least he realized how ridiculous it was,...what he was saying. Thanks for your input,..I appreciate your comments.beachteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14159524928730022945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4901597967659101042.post-10830699564452699692010-12-29T12:38:34.388-05:002010-12-29T12:38:34.388-05:00Yes, I have received the same call form my son ---...Yes, I have received the same call form my son --- more times than I can even recall. It all sounds the same, call after call. However, your son does show signs of "willingness" so I say don't pay too much attention to what he says that makes you "crazy" but simply encourage him. Love, hope and encouragement is all you can (perhaps should) do.<br /><br />I finannly had to put in writing what my boundaries were when talking to my son. When he crossed the boundary I told him he was loved etc. and when he wanted to call back and abide by the boundaries we had agreed to that I would take his call, then I hung up. I would say this even if he was yelling etc, knowing that he wasn't listening but I still felt better going through the motions as I had outlined in the agrteement.<br /><br />In prayer for all who suffer from this disease.VJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10009110521934666163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4901597967659101042.post-7622017492292201812010-12-29T10:40:29.381-05:002010-12-29T10:40:29.381-05:00You let him suck you into his drama. It happens to...You let him suck you into his drama. It happens to the best of us. Next time, tell him what YOUR plans are...<br /><br />example: "Unless you want to do this all on your own (homeless), you will remain in a treatment facility UNTIL I feel you are ready to leave. At that point, you will head into a sober living house in a different state from where we live. You will not be living with us going forward. I love you. Goodbye!"...and hang up.<br /><br />Try it. It really works...and you will feel MUCH better without the drama.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08861512970307127613noreply@blogger.com