Monday, January 21, 2013

how many of us are still singing this song ? : (

         Love this song - but it also makes me so sad.....

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Another Question

   First of all - thank you SO much for your replies.  Especially thanks to Lou for her e-mail rehearsing her family's personal experience with Narconon.  Narconon is out for my friend's son.  And I forgot - this will be his 3rd rehab - not 2nd,..I forgot one of them.  She's asking of anyone of you know of a place called St Jude's in New York State.  Probably a lot of you have heard of it - who knew we'd all become so well versed in rehab places ?   It's a non- 12 step program,...so that's obviously atypical - but the reason they're considering it.  Her son, B, hasn't ever really bought into or  connected with AA or NA - so they thought this may be better.  I don't know - is that B's unwillingness to do "whatever it takes" ?   I am not saying that the 12 steps are the only way to lasting recovery ,..not at all - just hoping B is sick & tired ENOUGH to do what's needed to really recover.
    My friend, also B, ..is very special to me.  We taught 4th grade together for 4 years - as team teaching partners.  She taught all the language arts and I taught all the math & science to 2 classes that switched back & forth between our classrooms. When I came to this school I was paired with her to teach - and who knew that we'd hang on to each other for support and sanity through the worst times of our lives, both as mothers of addict sons.  Out of all the other teachers I could have been paired with - I was teamed with this woman whose son's problems began to grow & then just spiraled into a horrible addiction to heroin. He's 2 years older than D,..and then - D was right behind him - like the same age pattern of drugs & trouble.  In fact, although B's been in plenty of trouble, my D's been in more (arrested 6 times. : (. ) -given his former penchant for drug dealing & inability to keep his mouth shut around cops.  Never will understand that one.     But my friend, B, and I related to each other on so many levels - do not know how I'd have made it this far with any semblance of sanity without her - and all of you !!    So what were the odds, as I said, of being paired with another teacher in the school whose son was an addict- right when I needed it most, ...and so did she.  That - Ive always thought was a God thing - just am sure of it, and very grateful for it.

   Hoping B will really turn this around - just as I do for all of our sons & daughters.  Any info on St Jude's- am all ears & will pass it on.  Thanks. 

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Need info

Hi all - haven't posted in forever - but still read about you & yours daily.  At some point soon I'll do an update on how we're doing here.  D's no longer in the horror show he was in back in Aug. & September, thank God !  He's not yet where he needs to be, but definitely progressing - and living back here in VA., nearby,...just moved into an apartment with a friend that we've known since they were 10 yr,s old.  And amazingly- D's going to school again, at the local community college - taking 5 classes.  Like I said- will catch you up on him later. All isn't wonderful - still plenty of concern for how he's doing, decisions he makes etc. 

   Meanwhile, a good friend of mine- my former teaching partner, has a son who's an addict- addicted to heroin.  Was doing well for awhile (not really though) on suboxone- and is now a mess again. She called me after work today- saying they're going to send him to a rehab (his 2nd) - the other was quite awhile ago - at least a couple of years or more ago. She asked what I knew about Narconon - specifically their place in San Diego county - the Sunshine Summit Lodge.  I took to you bloggers - the ones I trust way more than just reading Internet reviews.  I did a quick search & it sounds like a nightmare - is run by Scientology.  I don't know much at all about Scientology other than its association with Tom Cruise & John Travolta - which isn't informative, obviously.  From the little I've read so far - wouldn't spend my $ at Sunshine Summit Lodge or let my son anywhere near there. But thought I'd ask all of you if you know of anyone personally who went through or knows of someone who did a Narconon program. Any info. would be appreciated.  
    I remain praying for your sons & daughters recovery.